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If you are feeling overwhelmed, riddled with guilt, and/or feeling like a failure as a mother, download this free customizable exercise to set personal standards for what it means for YOU to be a good mother.
Set Personal Good Mom Standards
I can’t tell you how many mothers I have chatted with who have felt the pull of expectations on their life as a mother. The problem comes when we take on every expectation and “good advise” as our own standards for being a good mom setting ourselves up for failure.
I created this exercise that allows you to customize your own standards to remind you how you are a good mother even when you feel you miss the mark. For example, I am not a cook, nor do I like spending time in the kitchen planning and cooking meals. The standard to cook homemade meals 7 days per week did not make my list of standards, but it may have landed on yours, and that’s great!
It is not selfless to hate oneself. This exercise addresses 5 ways to get past the lies and begin to heal.
How to LOVE YOURSELF even when it’s TOO HARD.
Often times we fall into the belief that being SELFLESS is a virtue. What tends to happen under the surface is more self-HATE or Self-Contempt. We put ourself down, refuse our own needs, and we set ourself at the bottom of the list of importance under the veil of being selfless, but you know.
Self-Contempt is the lack of respect or reverence for oneself, or the act of despising or the state of mind of one who despises oneself. Ultimately, when we are living in a world of intensive parenting and setting ourself up for failure, we are developing a running list of reasons why we are not worthy.
This download looks at ideas and exercises we do within our community to address the underlying issues in order to move forward.
RAGE, ANGER, RESENTMENT, etc do not need to control your life. This download gives you a plan for the next time you feel you may lose control.
Create a Plan for your TRIGGERS
You are not a slave to these intense and usually negative emotional reactions. After years of depression, the last to leave from me was my rage. You know the moment you are about to lose control of your emotions. When the kids are pushing every last button you have and something breaks inside. Instantly you regret whatever is about to come out of your mouth but you can’t stop. What began that particularly intense negative emotional reaction is a trigger. The thought you had right BEFORE the outside seemingly normal situation knocked the entire building down, is the trigger.
I created this exercise in order for all of us to disect our negative chain of events in order to have a plan for each trigger. For example: It wasn’t the kid asking for juice for the 1,000th time, it was that I had expectations for my time in that moment. Having a plan and setting boundaries can keep us from losing control.